Topic of the Day

Being Faithful

Ok, this is a touchy subject. Not because I'm unfaithful, I'm not, nor have I ever been to even the biggest jerks I've dated. And there have been plenty of those. I have been cheated on though. I think it's touchy because there have been so many unfaithful people for so many reasons.

Now, I have to ask: is there ever a legitimate or acceptable reason to cheat? Personally, I have to say no. That's just me. I figure if you're that damn miserable and are thinking of or want to cheat then you either need to deal with some issues or get out of the relationship. But don't cheat. It demeans you as much as well as possibly hurting someone very badly.

That said, I can understand how it can be difficult for a person to stay faithful. The truth is, there are times with everyone that I think the opportunity to cheat makes itself present.

Personally, since I've lost a lot of weight I have been hit on much more than I have in a very long time, and by a few young, good looking guys, as well as others. Anyway, as you may know, my marriage is not perfect, and sometimes I question if it will survive. This being the case, being hit on by anyone, especially a young hot guy, absolutely sends my head spinning with flattering and pride. Ok, if these guys saw me without my clothes they'd realize that losing a lot of weight fast leaves its own ugly visuals, but that's not the point.

The point is, it feels good to know that you're attracting people and that you still 'got it'. Especially if you haven't been told that very much at home. One thing I can say for Ox is that he does continually make me feel beautiful, even if he also makes me feel like he thinks I'm an idiot. Again, that's a post for another day.

So, does misery at home justify infidelity? No, of course not. Is there anything that does? What if one person is terminally ill, long term, no chance of recovery. They decide you should cheat, that you need that physical connection and since they can't give it to you, you should find it somewhere else. Is it ok then? Still, no, for me.

I just think it's not right, regardless of the circumstances. Even if they cheat on you first. My gosh, leave them already if they're cheaters anyway.

The only reason I'm choosing to write about this is because I see a lot of cheating and it bothers me. Even if you're not married, but have made a committment of any kind to each other, it is still wrong. But what I wanted to make clear is that even though I am adamant about disagreeing with cheating because I've seen what it can do, I can understand the temptation.

The want and need to feel loved and desired never dies. We never stop wanting to be wanted. Yet, many times this need falls short after years of togetherness and then you begin to not feel as wanted, needed or desired. Things have slowed down and the passion isn't what it used to be. During these times I understand a person being tempted. We never stop being attracted to people. Heck, I still like looking at good looking guys, but I just look.

I think there's a point to this somewhere. That point being that relationships are hard. They change. People change. Life happens. But regardless of that we should always make a point to let our significant others that they are still sexy and wanted and loved. And we should make the time for each other, even when life is its busiest. Being a couple takes work, commitment is tough.

But, as they say, anything worth having is worth working for.

Faithfully,
Sissy